It's about how you 'see' things...
“All the successful people I’ve studied share two important qualities: they know where they are going, and they are prepared to put in whatever work is necessary to get them from where they are now to where they want to be. Interestingly, whenever any of these people fall short of their goal, they never complain that they were doing it wrong or underperforming or failing. They simply laugh it off and do it again until they get it right. Many neuro linguistic programmers talk about getting good outcomes, I talk about setting good directions”
Identify an issue you would like to resolve and ask yourself each of these questions in turn. Notice how different your experience is depending on which filter you use. This model is great for coaching conversations, especially when you don’t fully understand the situation.
Developed from ideas by Richard Bandler,
Ian McDermott and Diane Lowther